I:0:T How, you ask, can I be so sure it's possible to raise kids free of temper tantrums when parenting experts tell us it's not possible? My first five babies all threw temper tantrums...and my last eight did not. My fifth baby was around fourteen months old when I figured out what to change in my parenting style so that he became forever free of temper tantrums within about a week.
With my last eight children I applied these same parenting techniques from their births on, and none of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not claiming, however, to be one of a select few parents to have raised a number of tantrum-free kids. Personally, I've met hundreds of them, and I'm guessing there have been millions and millions of them over all time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Many parents of tantrum-free kids might not know exactly all they do that's different from what tantrum-throwers' parents do, mainly, I'm guessing, because they didn't have failures to compare with successes like I did. In other words, my guess is that most parents who bring up tantrum-free kids do so with every one they have, right from the beginning of their parenting days. Somehow they are able to start out on the right track and don't get into heeding the standard, faulty tantrum advice. They don't have before and after sets of examples for comparison like I had, so they can't say what they were doing during the failures and what they changed to cause the successes.
Even though these parents can't articulate exactly what they did to raise tantrum-free kids, they still add support to my theory. They demonstrate that raising tantrum-free children is possible for people who somehow manage to discover the right techniques. Any of you who've been able to raise tantrum-free children are invited to list these experiences on my webpage, Tantrum Free Club, so you can help me convince others that it's possible. And any of you who haven't raised tantrum-free kids are welcome to vent and share your most embarrassing or worst ever temper tantrums stories on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums page.
With my last eight children I applied these same parenting techniques from their births on, and none of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not claiming, however, to be one of a select few parents to have raised a number of tantrum-free kids. Personally, I've met hundreds of them, and I'm guessing there have been millions and millions of them over all time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Many parents of tantrum-free kids might not know exactly all they do that's different from what tantrum-throwers' parents do, mainly, I'm guessing, because they didn't have failures to compare with successes like I did. In other words, my guess is that most parents who bring up tantrum-free kids do so with every one they have, right from the beginning of their parenting days. Somehow they are able to start out on the right track and don't get into heeding the standard, faulty tantrum advice. They don't have before and after sets of examples for comparison like I had, so they can't say what they were doing during the failures and what they changed to cause the successes.
Even though these parents can't articulate exactly what they did to raise tantrum-free kids, they still add support to my theory. They demonstrate that raising tantrum-free children is possible for people who somehow manage to discover the right techniques. Any of you who've been able to raise tantrum-free children are invited to list these experiences on my webpage, Tantrum Free Club, so you can help me convince others that it's possible. And any of you who haven't raised tantrum-free kids are welcome to vent and share your most embarrassing or worst ever temper tantrums stories on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums page.
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