Parenting experts throughout the globe have consistently failed for many decades to help the world's parents totally eliminate their children's temper tantrums. One main reason for this is that parenting experts are mostly misguided and don't understand the real cause of temper tantrums. They think that the causes of tantrums are children's lack of problem solving skills, lack of alternate ways to express their emotion, lack of ability to verbally express themselves, low frustration tolerance, determination to have things their own way, and need for attention-all of which naturally leads to tantrum experimentation.
I have learned on my own that these are not the true causes of tantrums. They are, however, the causes of the initial anger that leads up to the tantrums. Over a twenty-three-year period, I have repeatedly demonstrated that if the initial anger of a child invokes the needed parental response, the anger quickly goes away and doesn't develop into a tantrum. One very real cause of tantrums is when parents don't meet the initial anger needs of their children.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding through personal experience. My first five children all threw temper tantrums, as babies, but my last eight did not. When my fifth child was fourteen months old, and I learned what to change in my parenting style, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so of my implementing the changes. I tried the new anger-response techniques with my last eight babies, from their births on, and it totally prevented any and all tantrums with them, throughout their childhoods.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
I have learned on my own that these are not the true causes of tantrums. They are, however, the causes of the initial anger that leads up to the tantrums. Over a twenty-three-year period, I have repeatedly demonstrated that if the initial anger of a child invokes the needed parental response, the anger quickly goes away and doesn't develop into a tantrum. One very real cause of tantrums is when parents don't meet the initial anger needs of their children.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding through personal experience. My first five children all threw temper tantrums, as babies, but my last eight did not. When my fifth child was fourteen months old, and I learned what to change in my parenting style, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so of my implementing the changes. I tried the new anger-response techniques with my last eight babies, from their births on, and it totally prevented any and all tantrums with them, throughout their childhoods.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
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